We all know that honesty is one of the most important cornerstones of absolutely any relationship, romantic or otherwise. But knowing this crucial piece of information doesn’t necessarily mean that we’ll act on it by spending some time thinking carefully about exactly what it is we’re looking for in a relationship and ensuring that we’re conveying this clearly and accurately to our partner or potential partner.
Of course, it goes without saying that there are many different people who are looking for love, romance and companionship – and each of these individuals has slightly different interests, passions, hobbies and characteristics. Similarly, each individual has their own personal preferences when it comes to dating, with some people looking for serious, long-term romance and others simply looking for friendship and laughter. At the extreme ends of the scale, there are naturally those who are keen to find a marriage partner as soon as possible, and those who are looking for nothing more than a casual fling.
With so many different people all looking for slightly different things, it can be all too easy to end up getting involved in a relationship that is doomed from the start – only leading to pain and disappointment for everyone involved. This is why it’s important to remain at all times open, honest and genuine when it comes to communicating with your partner.
The Many Long-Term Benefits of Being Open and Honest
By maintaining real honesty, you and your partner will be able to keep on top of what it is each of you is looking for, and how any differences can be reconciled. This approach of regular, frank conversation and the sharing of thoughts, emotions and experiences should be employed from the very start of your relationship, when it can be far more tempting to hide your real dating wishes for fear that they won’t be consistent with those of the man or woman you’re trying to build a connection with.
But when you do so, you’re only serving to lay the foundations of future confusion and conflict. Instead, be sure to let your partner know if you’re not looking for anything serious – even if you fear that they are. Likewise, even if you think that your partner may be less keen on a long-term relationship than you are, you should always be open about this from the start. Any difficulties or hardships encountered this way will be minor in comparison to those you’ll encounter if you keep your real emotions and preferences secret until you’re already in a serious, long-term relationship.
Furthermore, it isn’t just major issues like your overall relationship goals and preferences which you should strive to be entirely honest about: in fact, plenty of experts now believe that even the smallest, ‘everyday’ lies can actually serve to subconsciously create a negative dynamic in which it is hard to build the attributes and habits required to enable a healthy, happy relationship to grow and thrive. But with regular, honest and open conversations about everything from your wildest dreams to your smallest worries, you can rest assured that you’ll be giving your relationship the very best chance of success!